We are a generation under pressure. There’s no doubt about that. All you have to do is wake up in the morning and listen to the buzz of cars outside or chirp of birds, and already, the pressure begins. What do I have to do today? We get ready for the day already under the weight of our day’s responsibilities.
People almost idolise this pressured lifestyle as if the more pressure you’re under, the more potential you have to be successful. We even compete with each other to see who is living the better life in our circle of friends or co-workers. One can sit on Instagram for hours scrolling through people’s perfect homes, perfect cars, perfect outfits, jobs, husbands… I mean! You look at their portrayed life in relation to yours and suddenly you feel depressed.
Last week I shared a screen shot of my previous post on my Instagram Stories. “How To Generate Higher Blog Traffic Using Pinterest | The Simple Way”. I always share my posts on all social media platforms just to keep people updated. And I was so amused by a response I got from someone I used to study with. Check this out.
It was just the most random thing ever because we were classmates but not quite friends as such, although still friendly, if you know what I mean. So we hardly, if ever, chat about anything. And after my reply, she didn’t write anything else. We’re both doing our community service at the moment in different provinces, and everyone gets paid the same salary nation wide. It’s a trend for a lot of community service dieticians to buy a car within the first 6 months into the year, so every year people save up in order to get a car ASAP.
Personally I don’t bother what people do with their money. Whether they buy a car after one month or a house at the end of the year doesn’t shake me. However, what concerned me here was the thought process that compelled this person to have to tell me they bought a car, plus the necessity to ask if I’ve bought one too. Like, how that one take concern me? 😂. I actually laughed a whole lot after reading the text all over again. Then I felt sorry for them, as I thought about how real the pressure is to be successful in our time. Not just successful, but somehow elevated, in comparison to others. Let’s talk about these things though!
1. EXTERNAL PRESSURES
In order not to be swayed by external pressures, we have to set our own pace in life. Never surround yourself with people who affect your confidence negatively, in terms of their success. Or who make you feel pressured to be a certain way. Of cause I’m not talking about role models here or people who pressure you to perform at your best. I’m talking about the dark kind of pressure here. That’s why I don’t follow alot of mainstream YouTubers and all these slay queen Instagram accounts posting revealing Gucci outfits daily. Like, what will they teach me? At the end of the day a lot of girls end up feeling like they have to do this or that to live the kind of lives that these “rich” slay queens portray. I’ve seen girls spend money they don’t even have on expensive weaves, just so they can be seen as desirable on social media. All that pressure for what?
We’re bombarded by external pressures daily with this whole “goals” this and “goals” that. Are your lifestyle goals really your lifestyle goals or just someone’s life you’ll like to have? When will you say “I am now successful?” Infact, who defines your success? Let’s be real here!
2. SELF INFLICTED PRESSURES
Sometimes we are the reason for our own stress, because we set ourselves up to do things beyond our capacity at the time. Then we feel disappointed in ourselves, when we don’t reach our expectations. I am guilty for this often. Especially when I’m trying to save up for something, for example, a phone. I’ve always been this way since I was younger. I can even compromise on the quality of food I purchase, just so I can be able to buy this or that thing I’ve been wanting. But thank God my sisters and parents always keep me in check! I just generally love saving though 😂. But I don’t pressure myself so much anymore.
ONE THING TO REMEMBER
All this life is vanity. All this pressure is going to make us die young. Let’s build our legacies but at our own pace. Let’s be inspired by others but set our own goals and make our own rules. Please take it easy, we only have one life to live! Don’t let someone else dictate to you how to live it or define what success should look like!