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The Pressure To Be Successful | Please Let’s Take It Easy!

We are a generation under pressure. There’s no doubt about that. All you have to do is wake up in the morning and listen to the buzz of cars outside or chirp of birds, and already, the pressure begins. What do I have to do today? We get ready for the day already under the weight of our day’s responsibilities.

People almost idolise this pressured lifestyle as if the more pressure you’re under, the more potential you have to be successful. We even compete with each other to see who is living the better life in our circle of friends or co-workers. One can sit on Instagram for hours scrolling through people’s perfect homes, perfect cars, perfect outfits, jobs, husbands… I mean! You look at their portrayed life in relation to yours and suddenly you feel depressed.

Last week I shared a screen shot of my previous post on my Instagram Stories. “How To Generate Higher Blog Traffic Using Pinterest | The Simple Way”. I always share my posts on all social media platforms just to keep people updated. And I was so amused by a response I got from someone I used to study with. Check this out.

It was just the most random thing ever because we were classmates but not quite friends as such, although still friendly, if you know what I mean. So we hardly, if ever, chat about anything. And after my reply, she didn’t write anything else. We’re both doing our community service at the moment in different provinces, and everyone gets paid the same salary nation wide. It’s a trend for a lot of community service dieticians to buy a car within the first 6 months into the year, so every year people save up in order to get a car ASAP.

Personally I don’t bother what people do with their money. Whether they buy a car after one month or a house at the end of the year doesn’t shake me. However, what concerned me here was the thought process that compelled this person to have to tell me they bought a car, plus the necessity to ask if I’ve bought one too. Like, how that one take concern me? ๐Ÿ˜‚. I actually laughed a whole lot after reading the text all over again. Then I felt sorry for them, as I thought about how real the pressure is to be successful in our time. Not just successful, but somehow elevated, in comparison to others. Let’s talk about these things though!


In order not to be swayed by external pressures, we have to set our own pace in life. Never surround yourself with people who affect your confidence negatively, in terms of their success. Or who make you feel pressured to be a certain way. Of cause I’m not talking about role models here or people who pressure you to perform at your best. I’m talking about the dark kind of pressure here. That’s why I don’t follow alot of mainstream YouTubers and all these slay queen Instagram accounts posting revealing Gucci outfits daily. Like, what will they teach me? At the end of the day a lot of girls end up feeling like they have to do this or that to live the kind of lives that these “rich” slay queens portray. I’ve seen girls spend money they don’t even have on expensive weaves, just so they can be seen as desirable on social media. All that pressure for what?

We’re bombarded by external pressures daily with this whole “goals” this and “goals” that. Are your lifestyle goals really your lifestyle goals or just someone’s life you’ll like to have? When will you say “I am now successful?” Infact, who defines your success? Let’s be real here!


Sometimes we are the reason for our own stress, because we set ourselves up to do things beyond our capacity at the time. Then we feel disappointed in ourselves, when we don’t reach our expectations. I am guilty for this often. Especially when I’m trying to save up for something, for example, a phone. I’ve always been this way since I was younger. I can even compromise on the quality of food I purchase, just so I can be able to buy this or that thing I’ve been wanting. But thank God my sisters and parents always keep me in check! I just generally love saving though ๐Ÿ˜‚. But I don’t pressure myself so much anymore.


All this life is vanity. All this pressure is going to make us die young. Let’s build our legacies but at our own pace. Let’s be inspired by others but set our own goals and make our own rules. Please take it easy, we only have one life to live! Don’t let someone else dictate to you how to live it or define what success should look like!


๐ŸŒน Joan


24 thoughts on “The Pressure To Be Successful | Please Let’s Take It Easy!

  1. Thanks Joan!
    The pressure to be successful is real and quite intense in the world that we live in. But it’s just plain unhealthy and it would be wise to protect ourselves from it.

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    1. Hey Eniola! Tell me about it. Just stress everywhere. The best thing to do is define our own success and work towards it inspite of what society thinks. We worry too much what people think! Have a blessed day ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ˜Š

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  2. Wonderful post and such a great reminder. Itโ€™s so much more rewarding living by Godโ€™s standards instead of living by the worldโ€™s standards. What may not look โ€œsuccessfulโ€ in the eyes of the world could very well be considered successful in the Kingdom! Success in Godโ€™s eyes is all about obedience. Success in the worldโ€™s eyes is all about material things. You can have all the material things in the world and still not be successful! To me, success is making an impact. Success is making someone elseโ€™s life better. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, Joan ๐Ÿ’œ

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    1. Hey Tiarra! You hit the nail on point! Obedience to God will surely lead to one attaining what God has destined for their life, and that’s what opens the door to true success. Success is not a bad thing, it’s the superficial kind of success that causes one sleepless nights ๐Ÿ˜…. May God help us in this journey. Thanks so much and God bless!! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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  3. This is something I needed to see. Most of my pressure is internal but it genuinely drives me crazy sometimes. Iโ€™m literally awake right now because of the pressure I put myself under causing me anxiety and doubt in myself and comparing myself to others. Itโ€™s sad. This is a great post and so inspiring

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    1. Hello ๐Ÿ˜Š …Being someone who gets herself under pressure too, I understand because it just seems like your mind won’t stop coming up with different plans, until you “solve” that situation. But honestly if we stay in God’s will, he truly has the best plan for our life. Comparing with others will not speed up the manifestation of our own blessings. We are only human, we cannot outthink, outplan or outwork God. We can only do our best and trust in God. All i know is, we were made to succeed! Have a blessed day!! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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  4. The pressure is real but our God is even more real and He always has our back.Thank you Joan for this post.I am learning daily to stay in my lane and appreciate how far I have come.God is ever FAITHFUL!

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  5. โ€œLet no one dictate to you how success should look likeโ€ the pressure is just extreme on youths these days,people inspire or get the things I want but I would never wish to be like them, great post joan

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    1. Eyyy we cant come and go and kill ourselves na ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚. I’ve lived under mostly pressure from myself ๐Ÿ˜…. We are doing our best and that should be enough ๐Ÿ˜


  6. Can I like this post a hundred times?
    “People almost idolise this pressured lifestyle as if the more pressure youโ€™re under, the more potential you have to be successful.ย “.

    Have been finding it hard to make a comeback to blogging, first it was all pressure and pressure, one thing I keep telling myself and doing is, anytime I feel pressured to write, post something, get self hosted, I just pause, because I don’t want to do it out of pressure.
    I honestly don’t know if am making sense?

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    1. Hey Seyi! It’s embarrassing how late this reply Is coming omg…I just want to hide๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ…And you’re making perfect sense! We start to feel pressed when our audience becomes the main reason why we write. We begin to have headache thinking about what they will like to read…are we doing well enough, what if no one reads anymore…While we create content to make impact in others lives, if we’re not motivated in ourselves and actually doing it cause of the joy we personally find in blogging, then we’re missing the point. Personally I write because it helps me put life in perspective. The fact that people can relate with me and what I have to put out, is a bonus! And I’m so grateful for that…๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š. As for the Private domain, I don’t want one for sometime cause I’m enjoying the interaction on WordPress. Private domains can make bloggers become isolated, if they don’t already have a good following ๐Ÿ˜… opinion though.


  7. woooo chile! Anytime I think about my future, its like I’m 23 which means I’m almost 25 which means I’m basically 30 already i need to get it together yesterday! And I get what you mean by people glorifying how stressed they are. glorifying losing unhleathy sleeping habits and stuff when actually taking time out to reset and rest can make you way more productive. That message about the car. . .girl. . .that was not neccessary. . .sounds like bragging and some kinda competition this person is in with you that you may not be aware of. own race own pace girl. slay in your lane!

    Mvumikazi | Urban Mnguni

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    1. I know what you meannnnnnn๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ… Like 25 is starring at me right now and I’m just trying to get my life together. I think our 20s are so stressful cause every decision we make now interms of career, spouse etcs…can end up being long term. So eish, we just have to take it one step at a time and celebrate every milestone we make, big or small! As for that message๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚… Girl she sounded like she had her own self inflicted pressures. Mina I was just minding my business ooooo….Slay away too Queen! Let’s get thisssss๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ


    1. Youโ€™re welcome! The buzz of life is getting louder these days but I try and escape all the pressure even if it means disappointing people. Because my sanity is a priority๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ’•


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