It’s official! I’m going to be a Wife🙌. Let that marinade 🙌💓
Is it marinating? Has it marinated? Why I’m I talking about marinade… Now I’m craving ribs😅. Okay I’m just kidding. But I bet you knew that because, well I won’t be announcing such online in this manner. Please excuse my photobombing sister 👭.
Over the past 6 months I’ve been blessed to experience so many weddings of friends and family both in Cameroon & South Africa. I always feel so over joyed to see two people I value become one. I like to tell myself I’m not into mushy stuff but weddings just bring out the teary eyed me. While marriage is truly a beautiful thing, I feel there is unarguable pressure at times to commit and settle down after a certain age. This relates to all race groups and cultures, particularly from women towards the younger lady concerned.
I can speak from an African perspective because that’s what I know. Once a lady hits 25 years or even earlier, already the aunties and uncles some which you never even talked to start lining up and showering you with questions about when you’re going to get married. They start making you feel like you have a problem or you are inferior to your mates who are married or engaged. Infact, you yourself may have everything going for you, good job, a car, a house but no husband and also just feel unfulfilled. But why is it that bachelors have it easier when it comes to this matter?
Well here’s the only thing I think makes the imbalance make sense, although I’m not justifying it in anyway. In women, conceiving at an older age may be detrimental to the health of a baby. It may be born with a physical or cognitive impairment. But this risk only begins from 35years+. And men, well no wahala in their case even if they marry at 50😂.
With this said, we live in a new day and age where so much can be done to help a woman conceive and maintain her pregnancy way over 35years. Education is also crucial in preventing oneself from becoming a prey to a forced marriage. Because if a lady lacks an education or a skill her family may push her into marriage because they cannot provide for her anymore and she cannot provide for herself. Marriage is something so precious and holy. A covenant with God. Not something to quickly rush into because time is running out. I mean, you’re going to be stuck to the flesh of your flesh for the rest of your life 😶. A covenant is way more than a mere agreement, because God is involved.
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ ? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
The double standards between bachelors and bachelorettes have always been there and will be sticking around. But at the end of the day, it shouldn’t be cause for too much debate, but rather, prayer for revelation and discernment on the journey to becoming a Mrs.
So you read through the memoirs of a very unmarried 21 turning 22 year old female 😂. Let’s laugh together😂. I wore this outfit to my Sunday school teacher’s wedding back in Cameroon and thought to add it to this post for outfit inspiration.
P.s. I do feel some men face this marriage pressure too, but it’s at a much later age than women.
Miss Joan A.